A message to trolls: Leave VB alone

The trolls have been out in force today, bashing Victoria Beckham for posting a picture of her kissing Harper, her five-year-old on the lips.

What a sad day it is when a beautiful picture of a mother shouting to the world about how much she loves her little girl on her birthday invites such abuse.

One comment I read said: “This is so inappropriate and so lesbian.”

I’m sure the Beckhams are hardened to this kind of cr@p; they’ve been here too many times before.

But having seen this and many other terrifying comments I’m sat here feeling angry on their behalf.

I’m not really a massive follower of celebrity culture, but I’ve always found the Beckhams and the way they’re so open about how much they love and enjoy their kids really refreshing.

Even the biggest PR cynic in me can’t be convinced that their family is an act constructed all in the name of Brand Beckham. David and Victoria adore their brood. And every time they’re seen together, it’s obvious that the feeling is mutual. In this age of terror, sadness and uncertainty surely images of parents celebrating their babies’ birthdays with messages of love should be seen as welcome relief from the constant barrage of negative and scaremongering media overload?

Last year, when American child psychologist Dr Charlotte Reznick suggested that parents could be inadvertently confusing their children when kissing them on the lips as the lips are an erogenous zone I felt similarly speechless.

There’s no sexual inference whatsoever and to me, the idea that parental affection could be sexually confusing is – and this is obviously just my opinion – an insult to parents who are doing their best and trying to love their kids hard. What’s next? Implying that breastfeeding is sexual?

Some children are huggers or kissers. Others prefer less physical contact. Each family has different levels of intimacy, emotional and otherwise. And there’s no way on earth they should be made to feel like they have to justify that to anyone.

Let’s just imagine, for a second, that it was discovered that the Beckhams had abused Harper. Can you imagine the backlash? Instead they’re being accused of loving their children too much. Let’s just think about that for a second.


So I say keep kissing your kids, VB. And keep interrupting the news media with your show of love and kindness. The world is better for it.


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  1. 12th July 2016 at 8:41 pm — Reply

    It’s just ridiculous. Some people have too much time on their hands. Idiots. I kiss my daughters on the lips about a thousand times a day and will continue until they make me stop! xx #TwinklyTuesday

    • 15th July 2016 at 3:22 pm — Reply

      I’m with you there! As long as he’ll let me, I’ll keep showering him in love. Thanks so much for reading lovely! #twinklytuesday

  2. 14th July 2016 at 10:16 pm — Reply

    I’m totally #TeamBeckham…If I was VB I’d probably be WAY too busy kissing David to have time to kiss Harper though ha ha!
    Seriously though, if kissing your kids on the lips is wrong, I’m a total wrongun and proud of it.
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

    • 15th July 2016 at 3:24 pm — Reply

      Haha! I think there are loads of women who feel exactly the same way as you lovely!! I’m with you – keep kissing ’em I say. Can’t have too much love, can we?!? Thanks for reading and for hosting #coolmumclub Xxx

  3. 14th July 2016 at 11:07 pm — Reply

    I couldnt agree more. Its completely ridiculous how much fuss is being made over something so natural and normal for most parents. This is something that should be celebrated not criticised and torn down. Shame on those that have! Emily #BloggersClubUK

    • 15th July 2016 at 3:25 pm — Reply

      It’s such a shame there’s so much judgment when we should all be celebrating each other. What’s obvious though is that the trolls are very much in the minority. Sense prevails! Thanks for reading lovely Xxx #bloggerclubuk

  4. 14th July 2016 at 11:32 pm — Reply

    I actually saw this post yesterday while I was chatting with Mumma on the Edge and I think she must have RT’d it or something. Anyway now I’m rereading it via #CoolMumClub. It caught my eye as it so SO well written (and erm…way more succint that the one I just published this evening on this very topic!). Bravo for writing such a spot on post in my opinion and mega blooming bravo on that INSANE number of views lady! So pleased to meet you on le Twitter after seeing you at BML. Next time we shall chat properly. PS still think your blog name is one of the cleverest ever xx

    • 15th July 2016 at 3:29 pm — Reply

      Am so touched by your comment…what gorgeous words. Thank you so so much lovely! Can’t wait to read yours now….bet it will blow this little rant out of the water. I love your writing!! Ditto – am SO pleased to be in touch with you and can’t wait for when we can actually meet in the flesh. Have a brilliant weekend lovely lady Xxx #coolmumclub

  5. 19th September 2016 at 9:00 am — Reply

    I couldn’t agree more with you. I kiss my kids on the lips all the time. To think that this is a mother kissing her daughter. Imagine the backlash if it was a father kissing the daughter on the lips?!

    • 22nd September 2016 at 5:32 pm — Reply

      It’s so crazy isn’t it? The world has gone mad if a parent can’t show their children how precious and loved they are. Thank you so much for reading xx

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